less then supportive hubby

want_so_bad · 09-20-2007, 03:33 PM

throught this whole process my dh had not been supportive. he really isnt unsupportive either. he flat out told me he didnt want to hear anything about it. nothing, period. so i havent told him much. oh, of course, some of my excitement has spilled over and i have a said a few things here and there, only to be met w/ a plain, oh, or huh. even though i know better, it still stings when he is like this. or when he told me i should just get off my ass and workout.

last night i mentioned that i needed to go to gnc (we live in a very small town w/ no where like this to shop, but are going to salt lake this weekend, so i thought i would go then). he asked why and i told him to look into some protein powders and vitamins. he was like, why, you wont do it, you wont take them. umm, excuse me, yes i will! i have to! he doesnt know anything about this or how involved i have been, doing research, finding out what i need to do. then he tells me, i didnt know you would have to stuff like this. NO SHIT! you didnt want to hear anything about it, so i havent said anything (minus those occasional slips of course).

i dont know why it got me all upset, i am used to this attitude about it from him. part of my thinks he wants me to fail at this too, like i have w/ just about every other diet program i have tried. he doesnt understand that this is a life changing thing, forever. i will finally be that thin(ner) person i have never been! he told me he doesnt think i will do the 10 day liquid diet. like hell! last night i wanted to start it early, just to show him. but i didnt. i ate my salad and i was pissy and upset for a while. oh well.

thanks for listening to me vent about it. i feel better just getting it typed out. and i know you all will be supportive of me. thanks.

lovekatz1975 · 09-20-2007, 04:38 PM

I'm sorry your DH isn't being supportive. I'm very lucky to have a HUGE support group rooting for me right now. I'm on day 4 of my 14 day pre-op diet.

My ex-husband was never supportive. He would sabotage me when I did good on weight watchers. I gained almost 170 pounds in the 13 years I was with him. My divorce papers should be signed by the end of the year.

Please don't take this the wrong way, I'm not telling you to divorce him. But I know exactly what you are going through.

Mandyw · 09-20-2007, 04:56 PM

I'm sorry that you're not getting the support you need from DH. You can always get it from us!! I've noticed that when my DH isn't supportive of something, it is usually because he doesn't understand what is going on, or he's worried about me.

nicnaknut · 09-20-2007, 06:54 PM

I'm so sorry that you are going through the negative attitude from your husband.... This is such an exciting time in your life and it is nice to have the people close to you be supportive... However, we are all here for you and always ready to give you an "Atta Girl"" and big (((((Hugs)))))...

If you are able to buy things online, you can go to gnc.com and buy your protein powder from there. I used to live in a very small town that didn't have anything and that is how I used to get the things I needed. I was a big online buyer. lol

I use GNC's brand of Whey Protein Powder and I like it... I looked it up online and clicked on the 'Sports Nutrition' tab, and then on the left side I clicked on 'Protein' and then 'Whey'.. There are lots of items listed but the ones in the red package are GNC's brand called "Pro Performance", 100% Whey Protein Powder... The 1 lb packages run $14.99 and the 3 lb packages run $25.99 on sale. They have several different flavors as well as an unflavored on that you can put in soups, etc to get your protein... The flavored ones are mixed in water and taste pretty good. They work good for your pre-op diet.

Good luck to you and we are always here for you....

catzintj · 09-21-2007, 01:13 AM

i failed at all other diets and i worked out with a trainer for over a year. i still ate too much. i didnt tell my family or anyone about my surgery because i was afraid i might fail again. but thank god this worked. so i understand totally that he is less than supportive. i dont think it is right. i think you are strong and you have every right to be upset. try to stay focused on taking care of yourself. men dont express fear by talking about it, usually they get mad and react in anger. i would not take it personally. i know not all men are that way but maybe your husband is worried and not expressing it to you in the way that would be more helpful and encouraging.

mescla808 · 09-21-2007, 01:56 AM

Well i have gained 100lbs in our marriage of 15 yrs and been the gammont with many diets. My husband who is a size 28 ever since day 1 hasnt said to much either. ?I think like yours, maybe doesnt want to comment becuase we tried so much, but then again my husband is is safer to be mum because i will probably bite his head off if i hear negative out of him on this..