Tulips (and anyone else plauged with uncertainty and wrestling with their decision)......
There is NOTHING wrong with what you are feeling or the questions in your mind! All of us know the anxiety and the uncertainty associated with big decisions in life....lapbanding being one of them! And, sadly, we know all too well the misery of failure.....or, more aptly...*ANOTHER DIET FAILURE*!!! :phanvan
I wish I could ease some of that for you and tell you exactly what you need to hear to bring you some peace with whatever decision you make. For some people, there is that "magic moment" that speaks to them and guides them to a decision. For others, their decision was made for them (which can happen in a variety of ways) or they found themselves faced with a crossroad in their lives and needed to make a choice. And, there are others who could not explain what brought them to their decision yet could tell you that it was the right one! As for me, the only things I can share with you is what I believe to be true and the feelings that I have. :decision:
As I see it..... what we all have in common is that somewhere in all of this, we had an opportunity. Just like all of the opportunities we are presented with in life....we can take it or not. Opportuniteis come with no guarantees. No 100% certainties. No get out of jail free cards. This surgery is just that.....an opportunity to find a new and possibly better and more long lasting way to overcome our challenges with food so that we could live the happier, healthier lives we deserve. And, it comes with no promises that it will be easy or painless!
For me...what it came down to is this...I had to find a way to put food in it's proper place in my life. It's not my enemy, it's not my best friend and it's certainly not worth all of the feelings and anguish that it has caused in my life! Putting myself in control of food has always been the goal that alluded me. A smart, educated girl like me....I couldn't fight a bowl of pasta and meatballs to save my life!!!!:hungry::faint: Even when I'm on a "diet"....food controls me! If that education taught me anything, I knew that once I could stop food from controlling me......the benefits of better health, higher self esteem will follow. Simple! Right??? NOT SO FAST!!! Facing the fact that the only way for *ME* to control food was to restrict my consumption of it in a physical way was the path that took me to considering this surgery. It's like this...common sense tells us that the larger the glass...the more water it will take to fill it. So, the key is to get a smaller glass. A whole new way of thinking about it! Once I began to think of it that way....it was a no brainer.:violin: That's my "song" and I'm sticking to it....LOL!!!!
Sometimes it just takes another way of looking at things. Sometimes it just takes a little more time. Whatever you choose Tulips.....good luck! We'd love for you to stay with us Crazy Ates!!! You are among friends and kindred spirits....! :cheer2:
Judi
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