Oh shesh, AETNA, I have seriously had run-ins with this insurance company for years. They even denied my husbands claim when he had a heart attack while away on vacation! Now how can they deny that?! Of course we were "out of network" we were "out of country!"
What I did realize with Aetna and that experience was that if I called every day, got names of everyone I spoke with and stayed on them, they finally approved our hospital bills. It did take some tenacity though!
I'm haven't submitted anything to Aetna yet for my Lap Band, but I'm sure it will be a huuuuge run around.
Hang on and remember why your going through this whole thing. It's a gift of life!