Day After the Turkey

Yasmina · 10-10-2006, 07:26 AM

Hope that everyone had a wonderful thanksgiving !
My inlaws are Italian which means not just turkey but three types of pasta, rice yams, turnips, corn, mashed potatoes, ect get the picture. As the eating frenzy was occuring i could not help but think how different things will be for me when I am banded. I decided to try to stick to the portion controll thing. With my plate 3/4 full of food, I get from my mother inlaw." You no eat enough, you no like my food ?" I was thinking look at my ass, do I look like I don't like food. I told her I was paceing myself. That worked. I do not plan on tell them about the band. How do the rest of you cope with things like this.
After being banded, how long does it take until you can do regular activity ?

Yasmina :hippie:

Pinkylee · 10-10-2006, 07:37 AM

Yasmina
Well done. One thing I've noticed about the amount of food I eat or how slowly I eat it--no one notices. Those that do can easily be put off--they'll go back to their own plate after some reasonable excuse.

Follow your surgeons orders regarding activities. He knows your situation better than you or anyone else on this board. My surgeon gave me a booklet with guidelines to follow. I read it at least 3 times before my surgery and still refer to it four months post op. If you don't get written instructions--make a list of questions and ask your surgeon. Write the answers down.

If you do have a question, please know that Alexandria and the other moderators are a wise voice.

**Jack** · 10-10-2006, 08:27 AM

It really doesn't take too long to come up with strategies to manage those situations. We are all inventive....having for decades found ways to convice ourselves and others we weren't overeating....and now we can find ways that will be effective in our 'undereating' days....

Mostly, it is a temporary state of confusion for us, as it really DOESN'T matter what other people have to say about how much we eat.....I believe it is a mistake in our skills of social interaction to base anything on what people say regarding what is on our plate....

I'm reminded of the scene from "Driving Miss Daisy" where the black chauffeur has to find a place to urinate....and Miss Daisy was trying to convince him he 'really didn't need to'.....he has an eloquent line something to the effect of "Miss Daisy, I'm a 72 year old man, I can TELL when my bladder is FULL"....

CLOE · 10-10-2006, 09:25 AM

Hi Yasmina,

Glad you had a good thanksgiving feast. I cannot imagine trying to cope with food being pushed towards me. I can push food on myself, I don't need any extra help!!lol. It will be difficult for you to only eat a bit. If they noticed already, they will certainley notice after banded. Especially in the first couple months. I am by far the last one to finish at the table and only have eaten half of everyone else. I guess, maybe play stupid, just shrug your shoulders, tell em your taking your time. Eventually they'll get tired of asking, and leave you alone, right? Mmmmm the food does sound delicious!!! I sometimes wish I was in an Italian family, they eat so good!!
Hey there is one GOOD thing about finishing dead last at the table!! I noticed that at our thanksgiving dinner, that by the time I was even nearing completion, my mother and sister had already gathered the plates, loaded the dishwasher and started the coffee. THAT WAS COOL!!

Yasmina · 10-10-2006, 09:40 AM

Yes, the food is great, but when they make six different desserts and I am not talking low fat anything. I thought I did pretty good with only 1/2 a dessert. my personal trainer will beg to differ. As I have always said "Cake, my favorite kind" I have been on so many diets, I am sure they are used to it.
I can't wait to get banded, sometimes I am so ready, others I ask myself if I am doing the right thing. My friend says I am just big boned. Well if bones come is rolls of fleshy skin, then maybe I would agree, but we all know that is not true.

CLOE · 10-10-2006, 09:46 AM

LOL...Well I'm not a personal trainer but, isn't a price of cake okay for Thanksgiving. I think I would suck at being a personal trainer, although, I would love one!! When is your banding date?

Yasmina · 10-10-2006, 09:53 AM

Now don't get me wrong, he is great, A little twisted but good. Having a piece of cake every once in a while is not that big of a deal, but the diet he has me on does not allow for any cheats. If I was not the queen of cheating I would not wear a size 18 pants
I will not be banded until Jan

Yasmina :hippie:

argon · 10-10-2006, 08:26 PM

*cough cough* I say squeezing into my new pair of size 18 pants

LOL

Woodys · 10-11-2006, 01:45 PM

We went away to a resort for Thanksgiving.....I didn't feel like turkey and had beef tenderloin instead. The serving sizes were small...thank goodness....these days I feel overwhelmed when handed a huge plate of food and compelled to eat it all...which, of course, I can't. I only got half way through the appetizer and the entree which was perferct, but I know for sure that if we had company of family or friends at the table with us I sure would have heard about what was left uneaten on my plate. My M-I-L is okay as a m-i-l in general....but she is very very very frugal....and it is not acceptable to her,no matter what the circumstance, that food goes uneaten, especially when dining out....she has also never had to diet in her life! I am also so greatful that my husband never comments on what is left on my plate.....he simply asks me if I'm enjoying my meal. I think we did the right thing this year by dining alone for the first BIG dinner I have had to face.

Carol

Yoda · 10-11-2006, 04:04 PM

....ummmm....and how did the remainder of your weekend go Woody?

*winka winka*:rolleyes