Not band related, Maybe XXX, maybe some arguing...

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Why is everyone so astonished that there are arguments going on? There are SO many different personalities on this board, we are bound to clash.

I just want to scream because people are getting all defensive about petty things. Gimme a break!!!!
This is about opinions and support...

I will literally fall over if someone who doesn't want to argue comes into this thread and starts an arguement...

I seriously want to go away from LBT because of the people that are offended by this little thing and that little thing...

I KEEP hearing about PM's regarding arguements and sex talk... yet I have not received a SINGLE PM from someone telling me that my posting in their thread is offensive....

I try to keep my posts that are racey in the threads with others that enjoy these types...
I would NEVER intentionally offend someone here... if I start to read something that I don't like.... GUESS WHAT..... I go to the top of the page and click on NEW POSTS.... so I don't have to read it.

Again, just venting and fuming...

AND SURELY PEOPLE WHO ARE OFFENDED BY SEX AND ARGUEMENTS WON'T COME READ THIS....

Feel free to PM me if you don't like what I had to say in your thread... I completely understand!!!

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you are soooo right. i was immediately addicted to this board, and now that i have been a member for a whole, what, 3 weeks or so, some of this mess really makes me roll my eyes.


BROTHERS AND SISTERS, IF YOU DO NOT LIKE WHAT YOU ARE READING, GO READ SOMETHING ELSE. THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS SAID IN JEST ON THIS BOARD THAT FOLKS TAKE TOO PERSONALLY!!

LIGHTEN UP AND HAVE A LITTLE FUN! IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE SORT OF FUN THAT OTHERS DO, HIT THE BACK BUTTON ON YOUR BROWSER, AND CHECK OUT ANOTHER THREAD!!

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Very well said Heather!!

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Im offended. *grins*

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:) You don't know how glad I am that I have somebody agreeing with me... Thought I might be the only one that felt that way....

:):):) WHEW!!!!

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Thread Starter  

OK, so we won't see you back in here??? *grins right back at ya*

Sorry guys, I am starting to think that I might be somewhat of an instigator!??? hehehe

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Heather, you oversexed, argument instigator...I agree with ya.
This is a place for people to post their OPINIONS and THOUHGTS. So when I see people quoting someone and saying they were offended by that persons remark it drives me crazy. Every person on her has a right to THEIR opinion and if the person reading it doesn't agree then post your opinion but ya don't have to go on and on about how it offends you or how you disagree....just post your own opinion and move on. So if you want to talk about how many times you get laid and in what position then yes i will listen and I will be mad (cause I ain't as lucky) LOL but I won't be offended. Hope that all made sense.LOL

I think when you're new online it's harder. I'm such a sad nerd, lived most of my life online and made heaps of friends online over the last few years, and at first that was through an unmoderated publci forum, so boy I've learned a few things about arguing on line, lol. I'm not easily offended now.

I did send a PM or two myself though just to say I hoped I'd not offended somebody - and to lend support. Sometimes I think there's some things not appropriate to say to everyone. That's not bitchy or backstabbing either - just a private word of sorry, hope that didnt offend, but I get where you're coming from.

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HUMMMMMMMM all interesting subjects mentioned here.......those that love to argue and fight and take offense need to go elsewhere to do so. As all of you have stated, how hard is it to not read something you don't agree with?

I mean....if walking by an adult book store you can do two things walk by or go in and see if theres anything you might want....LOL I, however, would have to walk in and take a peak and maybe purchase something...hee hee SO, with the above people, I concur that sex is good and you can talk all you want and I will not be offended. The arguments must stop because someone was offended by what someone said in GENERAL not DIRECTED AT A SPECIFIC PERSON OR PERSONS! This is a web site for adults...why can't we all just act like adults and use our own discressions as to what we want to read and if we don't like the subject get the Hell out.....you can leave just as easy as you get in!

If this offends someone.......thats on you!(mean aren't I) This is where the I statement thing comes in effect. You are the one that makes yourself feel some way not someone else that causes you to feel that way. Their action can cause YOU to feel a way but they themselves are not personally responsible.(thats what I learned in counciling what about you?)

I am offended. I came in here expecting good and healthy XXX sex talk, and got this bs about arguments. ;)

I'm with ya gurl.

Have I missed something or some threads.. I have been a member here for 2 yrs now and this past week I keep hearing about people wanting to leave or take a break because of certain threads or things going on here..I must be blind or stupid..I havent seen anything to that extent..or is this all going on in the PM world here?

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LaMadam...
I think a few people have gotten offended about the recent sex talks some of us have been having...
Also there have been a few threads where people got their nose bent out of shape because we weren't talking about band issues. I think some of the newbies have come here assuming that 100% of what we talk about is Band Related...

I have noticed a few people leaving because so and so offended them by presenting an arguement....

Really I was just majorly fuming on Friday... I took the weekend to cool down, but my thoughts are exactly the same...


GUESS WHAT GUYS??? STILL NO PM's THAT I OFFENDED ANYONE??? :) I don't direct my comments at a particular person or try to be directly ugly to anyone... so I might not actually be offending anyone??? WOW!!!

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I was going to start a similar thread, but since the fighting arena has already been set up, here I go.

I'm sick of LBT and won't be spending much time here any more. I know I'm about to hurt people I consider friends by saying everything I need to say, but at this point I don't give a damn because I'm RIGHT and that's all there is too it.

First and foremost, anyone who comes here thinking they have all the answers is full of W#$@%^. When I read people talking about getting all the bad food out of their house to lose weight I want to throw a coffee mug at the walls (filled with coffee.) I think Nykee said it best when she said she'd just go out and buy something if she really wanted it. Keeping junk food out away from you only works if you live on an and island or some freaky compound with no access to 7-11s and drive through fast food joints. So what if you can avoid junk food while in your house? I don't spend my life indoors. Wal-Fing-Mart isn't even safe because the smell of fresh popcorn kills me. Even the damn beauty parlor passes around trays of cookies. Movies, casinos, neighbor's & friend's houses, WORK, TV commercials... what about the enormous 18 wheelers we get stuck behind in traffic that have life-size pictures of tantalizing deli spreads or baked goods?

Which brings me to the next subject that pissed the hell out of me, which was the whole stupid, "Why do we allow temptation" debate.

ALLOW TEMPTATION in itself is a damn oxymoron. That's why it's called temptation, because it tempts, teases, tantalizes, hypnotizes, controls. The human mind is only set up for so much willpower. Some might have more of a military-based thinking system that allows them to hold onto willpower for longer periods of time, but resisting temptation is bullshit. TEMPTATION IS WHAT GOT US ALL F-ING FAT. We are morbidly obese human beings that have never been able to resist temptation. Never! So for anyone banded or better yet, unbanded, to think that our problem is keeping junk food in the house, Pah-leeezzz! Get real. Get honest. Go stand naked in front of the mirror looking at your morbidly obese body and ask yourself again if your problem stems from your spouse keeping potato chips in the kitchen.

Which brings me to the next issue of people getting banded then acting holier than thou. Nobody on this board knew how to eat like a normal human, ever. It took risking your life, tons of money, horrible pain yada yada yada to force food out of your mouths. And don't for a second start a new debate about how safe the band is because we all signed medical releases about all the risks, including DEATH. Just the risk of going under anesthesia alone could have killed any one of us, and many of us have gone under several times for port revisions, slippage, band removal, blah blah blah.

So put up your dukes if you want, but fight intelligently. I'm not reading any more bullshit around here about resisting temptation or people's fragile feelings getting hurt. Some call me a nasty bitch, others call me a realist. Try being real, you might like where I'm coming from. I don't buy hiding behind religion, either. If you believe in God and live your life according to the bible or whatever one of the thousands of religions that spring up ever day, then remember, God created all. God created me, and he created this fabulous brain. GOD gave me the ability to think and judge and analyze. If the bible says, "Judge not lest yee be judged yourself" then that's just another hypocritical reason I don't believe in the bible, because why would our glorious God give me the ability to judge if he didn't want me to use it? My brain does whatever the hell it wants to do, which is to pick apart lies, bullshit and deceit. I can't stand coming to LBT and knowing that big fat naked people suddenly have the answer to losing weight or keeping it off for good. We aren't psychics (or if there's one here, please PM me your number because I need a reading.)

Am I pissed? Hell yes I'm pissed. I don't miss my band because it put me through hell. I hated eating tiny little portions and upchucking every time a niblet got stuck, but I loved the results. Now that it's gone, I'm struggling and gaining weight. I will not have a bypass since a handgun to the head is much cheaper and less stressful. No, this isn't a suicide note ~ I would never hurt my family that way, but it sure sounds easier than all this.

If you can't handle adult topics then stay out of threads that have XXX or SEX in the title! Every one of us has a penis or a vagina, and a small fraction have a combo of both. We orgasm, masturbate, screw, give head and based on the amount of Anal Ease, Anal Jelly Beads, Anal Stimulators, Body Butter anal lubricant and anal vibrators that I sell every week, millions of people are getting it up the butt. So if that's too much for you to handle then shut off your TV, unplug your Internet, lock up your daughters and wives and live in denial.

Is LBT the right forum for this stuff? Who knows? Who here is perfect (well, I know one person who thinks he is) but has anyone here been given some special key of knowledge? Do you own the one and only book of what we as humans are supposed to act like? Do we have a Cherry 2000 in the room? I THINK NOT! This is supposed to be a weight loss support group. I’m not fat because of the way I eat. I’m fat because the way I think. So if I can’t discuss any and all of the thoughts that make me “ME” in a weight loss support group, then fuck it.

I feel much better. As a matter of fact, that felt damn good. And to anybody that might be offended or hurt by what I just wrote, frankly, I don’t give a damn.

Delarla-
You said it sister!!!! I also have been wanting to comment on all of the comments here lately. Lisa....PULLLLEEEASSEE don't leave or visit here less often. You have been a huge inspiration to not only me, but I know to MANY others on this board. You're words and wisdom have gotten me through days before where I didn't know if I could go on another minute. We need you here!!!

People....don't let a few annoying, bad apples come here and destroy a good thing. It may be easier said than done, since I don't know what type of PM's some people are getting, but please try to ignore the stupidity and ignorance. All I have to say is, for those that are new and preaching the "I'm holier than thou" sermon....it sure is a lot easier to be perfect for a month than for any longer period of time. That's not to wish any badness or cheating on anyone. Just a simple statement for those who don't "get it".

we all come here for support in the beginning, and then throughout to get questions answered months into it. I enjoy the people myself. I have never met any of you, and probably never will. But, I have fun with the post. I like the xxx, it sometimes just gets so boring that we need a little bit of that kind of stuff. I feel like we are all adults here, pick and choose which thread you want to read, and that should solve the problem.

I have to say that there are some people on here that have my personality, and I would love one day to meet. Delarla, your a blast. And Heathergirl so are you.

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