Moods

greyhoundmom · 08-07-2008, 08:03 AM

hi there, have you ever known someone who loses a bunch of weight and seems to lose their nice personality with it? i have known people like that. i'm scared.

i have noticed i am moody and snappy, saying things i would normally never say and just exteremely restless the past few weeks. it's like i have no patience anymore. and like i just can't find what i want to do from moment to moment. i'm wondering if it's my mind trying to replace overeating? i don't know. i've been depressed in the past and this does not feel like that at all. thankfully! just a deep frustration and unease. and it's bothering my husband now too.

i'm hoping this is temporary and i don't become one of those nasty skinny (formerly fat) people who i have met in the past.

before surgery i was exercising hard and getting a great exercise high - i haven't been exercising to that level - am thinking i'm missing it. will ramp it up and will see how that goes.

can anyone relate to this? thanks!

HarleyNana · 08-07-2008, 08:21 AM

IMO, weight loss is so individual. I, personally, still see myself as a fat person. I see every lump and bump. Personality wise, I'm more confident and definitely, loving life more.

As for others, I agree, I've witnessed people close to me who were not even considered fat or overweight, lose a few pounds and become bitch-divas, act like their "stuff" doesn't stink. Yet, I know others who have lost lots of weight and are still their sweet self, just excited and in love with their self in a good way.

Weight loss is a wonderful thing, but I have seen many relationships destroyed, not by the person who lost the weight, but by the spouse that beings to cheat, because, he/she, is no longer the dominating spouse...I hope that makes sense.

greyhoundmom · 08-07-2008, 08:49 AM

yeah, i guess that's what i'm afraid of - the changes that are not to my body really. but around me and in my mind. i am hoping this is a temporary adjustment as i get used to all these changes to make the band work. maybe the fact that i'm aware of these issues, that will help me avoid them as much as i can!?

i'm thrilled that i'm smaller and getting more in shape again. i'm much more comfortable and am proud of myself for finally doing something to make this work. but i'm also so moody and restless! not so much the bitch-diva - more that i feel like i'm lost - like i don't know what is going on even tho i really do of course!

we are getting bikes this weekend and that'll be something we do together and i think that'll help too.

thanks for your reply! i think this is really a huge issue surrounding weight loss in general. will search around to see if there is literature out there about it - maybe in wlslifestyles.com (which has a really good magazine by the way!).

greythope · 08-07-2008, 04:51 PM

I know first hand that losing weight and getting thin can affect your personality a bit. Although I was still nice to people and the same person, when it came to diet and exercise I became a real smug b*tch about it. I lived at the gym so was sore a lot of the time and hungry a lot so that affected my moods. I felt like that was how the rest of the world should live too.

Circumstances changed, couldn't live at the gym anymore, couldn't stomach Jenny Craig anymore, had a baby. Smugness came right up and bit me in the ass I deserved it.

I have vowed not to be like that again.