Really down and depressed

nurselori73 · 01-11-2008, 01:30 PM

No one in my life is supportive of me going to Mexico for the lap band. My insurance doesn't cover it so I can't afford it in the states. I feel so alone.

SteveInKansas · 01-11-2008, 01:43 PM

Might start by asking yourself who your doing this for, you or them??? I too am self pay and did consider going to Mexico. For what I'm paying ($16.500) I could almost take me and a friend to Mexico, but KC is alot closer to home.

Dont let your family or friends change your mind, do what YOU want to do. You cant change your family but you can find new friends!

What's best for you??? Good Luck!

brickgirl · 01-11-2008, 01:50 PM

What a good point Steve made. But also consider that your family either just doesn't understand or they are scared. Some people who don't have a weight problem have said to me diet and exercise. I look at them think WTF do you think I have spent my life doing???? Also, initially my children were worried and scared of the unknown; i.e. risks, changes in their life, etc. A little education may help your family understand.

Take care and good luck. You won't regret it.

NukeChik · 01-11-2008, 02:09 PM

I agree with brickgirl, the best thing that you can do is educate your family. I made mine look at the website for my doctor and this forum's website. I had them read all the literature that my doctor gave me and even made them watch the EMMI film. My better half spoke to people that had had the surgery (we work with 4 people that have done it) it helped him to be more open to it. It was funny, my family still thought that it was going to be much more invasive than it was. I think they thought I would wake up from surgery like some of those people you see on TLC and Discovery saying, "Why did I do this to myself". I woke up ready to go home!! I go my band on Monday and I have not had one second thought about doing it!!

You have to do it for yourself! Invest in your future!! There are all kinds of reasons that people will try and keep you from getting the surgery, just listen to yourself!!