Bad bander, but curious question!! ha ha

Froggi · 07-05-2008, 12:21 PM

Baby i'm glad you got some good out of this thread :)

losingjusme · 07-05-2008, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Ebeth0013

Ok so ive talked to many people some people follow directions to a T, but thats usually not my style! lol bad i know, but hey this is me and if im gonna do it, im gonna do it my way!! I still follow main rules dont worry!! But im on the pureed diet now!! Just wondering how many followed this really closely? I started eating solids before i was done with my liquid stage, taking it slow and chewing well!! I watch out for problem foods and eat slow, but i have not had any problems!! I get my first fill is July 25!! so excited!! i know i will be much more restricted then!! But just wanted to get some other's input!! Thanks so much!!

like all the others have stated - well most others - the ones who have been banded for a significant amount of time, bad bad idea. i'm not judging, but you stated you wanted other's input...

the pre/post op diet is there for a specific reason. i really wish surgeons would explain it more in detail, but some just dont... but even if they did i fear people would still dodge the diet...

you received input, it wasnt what you wanted to hear and felt you were being 'attacked'... not so.

my suggestion - listen to Colton, Wasa, Jachut, Elisabeth, Denise and the others who have been banded for awhile... most of the users i gave you are either AT GOAL or VERY VERY close to goal. so, they obviously are doing / did something right.

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Originally Posted by sheemac32

Excuse me was I directing that towards you, no. Every doctor is different and I had a fill with flouro yesterday and everything is still in place. I was not wishing ill will on anybody. And not trying to be rude. Sorry if that offened you.
Shee

come back after 2-3 years, let's see how you are doing then.

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Originally Posted by LeslieR041906

I have been cheating, I dont like it and I wish that I could start over. Its horrible knowing that you could have done something to your band.

you can start over -- whatever stage you are supposed to be on, go back to it. you can do it!

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Originally Posted by Ebeth0013

Ok here it is!!! I am a very kind person and have plenty of friends and no enimies!!! I have been on this Lap Band journey for over a year now!! Was banded on June 12th!! Did liquids two weeks before, doc told me clear liquids two days post opp, liquids for two more weeks, and now on pureed untill about the end of July. Im sick of liquids and am haveing an extremely hard time!! I posted becasue somewhere out there i wanted someone to send me help, telling me it will all be ok and i can do this! I know i can, and i am!! I have lost weight, ad am proud of this!! I take things very personal, and am very emotional, i knew people would tell me im wrong, but never expected it to be so straight forward and harsh!! Thanks anyways and sorry for all the misunderstandings!! Elizabeth

personally, i think it was your attitude... especially this part:

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Ok so ive talked to many people some people follow directions to a T, but thats usually not my style! lol bad i know, but hey this is me and if im gonna do it, im gonna do it my way!!

best of luck to you.

LeslieR041906 · 07-05-2008, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by losingjusme

like all the others have stated - well most others - the ones who have been banded for a significant amount of time, bad bad idea. i'm not judging, but you stated you wanted other's input...

the pre/post op diet is there for a specific reason. i really wish surgeons would explain it more in detail, but some just dont... but even if they did i fear people would still dodge the diet...

you received input, it wasnt what you wanted to hear and felt you were being 'attacked'... not so.

my suggestion - listen to Colton, Wasa, Jachut, Elisabeth, Denise and the others who have been banded for awhile... most of the users i gave you are either AT GOAL or VERY VERY close to goal. so, they obviously are doing / did something right.

come back after 2-3 years, let's see how you are doing then.

you can start over -- whatever stage you are supposed to be on, go back to it. you can do it!

personally, i think it was your attitude... especially this part:
best of luck to you.

Thank you. Im just really worried I done something. I ate a mushie today, and was nauseated. Im really worried. I dont know if maybe its something that my tummy has to get used to or what. But, there is a certain mixture of nausea and gerd.

**coltonwade** · 07-05-2008, 03:45 PM

what you have to understand is that your still healing from surgery . So you may become nauseated for a few different reasons .
are you getting enough liquids/water in ?
If you become dehydrated you may be come nauseated .
make sure your eating enough of the right things ?
If you are really feeling like your going to be sick , you need to call your doc and have him call you in a RX .

HTH
Mindy

LeslieR041906 · 07-05-2008, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by coltonwade

what you have to understand is that your still healing from surgery . So you may become nauseated for a few different reasons .
are you getting enough liquids/water in ?
If you become dehydrated you may be come nauseated .
make sure your eating enough of the right things ?
If you are really feeling like your going to be sick , you need to call your doc and have him call you in a RX .

HTH
Mindy

This is really weird for me, all I drink is water, and now, when I drink it, I end up with gerd. I can swallow it ok, but I drink it I have really bad gerd. This happened today, and last night. I really drink all the time. I didnt start this until the McDonalds incident.

losingjusme · 07-05-2008, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by LeslieR041906

This is really weird for me, all I drink is water, and now, when I drink it, I end up with gerd. I can swallow it ok, but I drink it I have really bad gerd. This happened today, and last night. I really drink all the time. I didnt start this until the McDonalds incident.

if it happened after you ate when on liquids, i STRONGLY suggest you call your surgeon. yes, now. 'confess' to eating when you shouldnt have and tell him you are having major reflux only on water.

there could be a potential problem.

im sorry if it's a slip...

**coltonwade** · 07-05-2008, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by losingjusme

if it happened after you ate when on liquids, i STRONGLY suggest you call your surgeon. yes, now. 'confess' to eating when you shouldnt have and tell him you are having major reflux only on water.

there could be a potential problem.

im sorry if it's a slip...

I agree you should call the doc , if they told you to go to the ER then you should go if you have Gerd/ refulx after this but not before. and your having isssues w/ water.
Mindy

HeatherO · 07-05-2008, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by LeslieR041906

Thank you. Im just really worried I done something. I ate a mushie today, and was nauseated. Im really worried. I dont know if maybe its something that my tummy has to get used to or what. But, there is a certain mixture of nausea and gerd.

I had low grade nausea for about the first 1.5 months from time to time. I followed my doctors instructions, but I swear it was water making me nauseous. Sometimes it is just like that, healing from surgery can make you nauseous. If it continues I would call your doc, but occasional issues arent uncommon since you are still so newly banded.

LeslieR041906 · 07-05-2008, 04:21 PM

Im going to call the office again, just to see if the nurse will talk to me. I know she will tell me to go to the er. I will keep you guys posted.

**AthinnerDenise** · 07-06-2008, 07:19 PM

I think it's a real shame that people get offended when we are trying to
let you know that you won't know 1 year from now or 5 years from now, if you band slipped because you didn't follow doctor's orders, or because you would have had a slip anyway. I am not judging anyone. If my band slips, I know it wasn't because I didn't follow the rules.

And I don't remember whoever said if (I) or we could stay on liquids for
weeks, we are so disciplined that we didn't need the surgery. I was very disciplined with every diet I ever tried the first few weeks. I could lose weight but I always gained it back plus more.

The band is the reason I am at goal, not because I am disciplined. After I got all my fills, I was satisfied on a very small amount of food.
That never happened on any other diet.

**coltonwade** · 07-07-2008, 12:23 AM

Well said. I noticed she's not posting anymore which is a shame .
The OP might learn something from us old foggie bandsters LOL

Mindy

Ebeth0013 · 07-07-2008, 01:20 AM

The reason i have not posted is because i am scared as hell!! I scared to right anything or ask anything! Everything i say gets taked wrongly!! When i said i do things my way, it was in a since a joke metioning how stubborn i am. I did so well with the pre-op liquids, and farely good with the post opp liquids!! Now im on pureed i guess i just dont see the difference in me chewing to liquid form, and putting it into the blender?? I need help, believe me i know!! Im crying right now, cus yall have made me feel terrible! I dont like how people are talking about me, saying i will not suceed, i know i will! I have came this far! I dont need permission, or validation, all i was looking for was, keep your head up, get back on track and we all mess up!! I just needed to know i wasnt alone!! I was not looking for someone to say yea i cheat so you can too!! I really wish people would stop assuming!! I wish i never asked for help, wished i never posted!! I feel worse now than ever! Yall have made me feel like its too late now, might as well give up!! The worst part is i dont like people being mad at me!! Now i feel like everyone hates me!! I just need help! I dont know what to do anymore! My doc is not the greatest, all they pretty much said was add water and a blender!! How appealing is that?? I feel so alone and confused!!

Im sorry to every one! and thank you for your advice. But i guess i am a failure!!! I mean now what?? I guess i already screwed up!!

But please just forget this whole thing!!!

SeattleSweetie · 07-07-2008, 01:53 AM

If you're serious about wanting to do things right, then by all means follow the advice of all the (very well-meaning) long-term bandsters who have posted here.

Your first post sounded rather off-putting, that you were going to do it your way no matter what you were told. However, if everyone here just misinterpreted, then please understand their responses are only intended to help, whether it be with soft and cushy replies, or tough-love replies. The people who have been here and been successful for so long do wish to see the same success in everyone else who comes through this site, and anything they can do to help, they will. If they think you need to hear something you may not want to hear, they're going to tell you. That's how it goes, and in the long run, that's much more supportive and helpful than just agreeing with, and validating, someone who wants to do things their way, regardless of the consequences.

However, no one here hates you, or anything even close. If you're here looking for real support and real help and you're doing your best to follow the rules given to you by your doctor, then we are ALL here to support you. Every single one of us. We will give you every piece of advice and info we can and we'll pass along every single thing we've learned in any manner that we're able. That's what this place is all about.

It's really damn hard sometimes, we know this, we're all living it. But things do get better. Just make sure you do the best job you can of taking care of yourself for your OWN future health and happiness.

Good luck and best wishes.

WASaBubbleButt · 07-07-2008, 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Ebeth0013

The reason i have not posted is because i am scared as hell!! I scared to right anything or ask anything! Everything i say gets taked wrongly!! When i said i do things my way, it was in a since a joke metioning how stubborn i am. I did so well with the pre-op liquids, and farely good with the post opp liquids!! Now im on pureed i guess i just dont see the difference in me chewing to liquid form, and putting it into the blender?? I need help, believe me i know!! Im crying right now, cus yall have made me feel terrible! I dont like how people are talking about me, saying i will not suceed, i know i will! I have came this far! I dont need permission, or validation, all i was looking for was, keep your head up, get back on track and we all mess up!! I just needed to know i wasnt alone!! I was not looking for someone to say yea i cheat so you can too!! I really wish people would stop assuming!! I wish i never asked for help, wished i never posted!! I feel worse now than ever! Yall have made me feel like its too late now, might as well give up!! The worst part is i dont like people being mad at me!! Now i feel like everyone hates me!! I just need help! I dont know what to do anymore! My doc is not the greatest, all they pretty much said was add water and a blender!! How appealing is that?? I feel so alone and confused!!

Im sorry to every one! and thank you for your advice. But i guess i am a failure!!! I mean now what?? I guess i already screwed up!!

But please just forget this whole thing!!!

I doubt anyone here knows you well enough to like you or hate you. The issue is not if anyone is mad at you, the issue is that you need to get a grip here. You are 19 years old, old enough to be responsible for your own actions.

Nope, food is not appealing at this stage but it won't hurt you. We all have to go through it and we all survive it, you will too. It is a very short time out of your entire life to not like the food.

Good luck to you.

TxShtKicker · 07-07-2008, 03:04 PM

I think this is why many hospitals require a psych evaluation beforehand.