Why are YOU Fat?

lacasst · 06-27-2009, 11:34 AM

I think I was fat because food was my everything! I ate when I was happy,I ate when I was sad,I ate when I was bored!! I just ate,ate,ate!! I would eat till I couldn't eat anymore..I would scare myself sometimes!! That is one of the things I love about the band is the control that it FORCES you to have!!It's soo nice to not have food control me anymore...makes me feel free!! I had a psychic tell me that I ate to build a barrier of protection around me so no-one or nothing could hurt me...very interesting!!

BJean · 06-27-2009, 01:28 PM

ChanginMyStars, I agree that the sleeve looks scary. It is one of those irreversible ways to solve the problem.

I haven't given up on the band yet, but I am discouraged. I just got another fill and hopefully, between that and my getting my head screwed on better, I will prevail.

HolliJ · 06-27-2009, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by lacasst

I think I was fat because food was my everything! I ate when I was happy,I ate when I was sad,I ate when I was bored!! I just ate,ate,ate!! I would eat till I couldn't eat anymore..I would scare myself sometimes!! That is one of the things I love about the band is the control that it FORCES you to have!!It's soo nice to not have food control me anymore...makes me feel free!! I had a psychic tell me that I ate to build a barrier of protection around me so no-one or nothing could hurt me...very interesting!!

Oooh, the psychic must be a reader - since I just read the same thing in a book. :D

bashful1269 · 06-27-2009, 11:49 PM

Many reasons why I am fat
#1 I LOVE food, I love to cook with lots of different flavors and textures
#2 I am member of the clean your plate club, yes eight years of a catholic school with nuns telling you there are thousands of starving children out there, will do that to you
#3 My daddy always said "You aren't poor as long as you have food in the house" He was raised during the great depression
#4 I eat when, I'm happy, sad, confused, frustrated, and mainly when I'm stressed out.
#5 I eat to be social, family functions always include food.
#6 I eat when I am lonely...Been divorced for three years and haven't dated in over a year.

Yup, lots of reasons...LOL

I pray the band helps most of those reasons

Albacheeser · 07-07-2009, 12:37 PM

Portion Control and "night eating". I don't have a sweet tooth at all and often go hours and hours without eating. However, when I sit down for a meal, just don't get in my way or it will be like being run over by an Army Tank.

I also have a night eating problem that starting when I worked often into the night and ended up eating late and it became a habit even when I had eaten dinner. This also was a cause of my Acid Reflux.

I have been thin and fat in my adult life until recent years when I had given up and got up to a BMI of about 54.

My portion control problems clearly go back to when I was child, being the youngest of six (five were boys). Getting enough to eat became an issue of speed.

Also, since I have three boys myself I have become aware that the youngest child can often develop eating disorders as a result of "sibling abuse" (physical and mental, not sexual). The constant picking on about weight or anything can make the younger ones develop complexes.

DukesDuchess · 07-13-2009, 07:20 PM

I'm sure that I'm fat because of Habit. When I was a kid I was forced to eat everything on my plate, even when I wasn't hungry. So I still have that mentality to eat whatever is put in front of me, and naturally I fill up the plate.

My husband has been very helpful, helping me control my portions and asking if I'm full or not if he sees me slowing down. However, after going on a strict diet plan and Work out - I only averaged losing .5 lbs a week. So there could be some other reasons why I can't seem to lose. I can lose weight - just very slowly.

It's been an exhausting 15 years. :(

suzetteherrera · 07-17-2009, 08:21 PM

I was told I was fat as early as 4 years old, I think. I can only figure out I was around 4 because I hadn't started the first grade yet. My parents' friends commented that I was "chubby". I remember looking in the mirror at that young age, and not seeing the "chubbiness".
My mom limited my carbs. I remember sneaking bread to my room at night. Oh! It tasted so good.
At around age 10, I was put on a "Dr. supervised diet". I had a food plan to follow. I remember getting down from 115 to close to 100 pounds.
Then I remember weighing more than 115 pounds in High School. I would go on starvation diets all through High School. I remember my lowest being 114. I think I had a little help from "Dexatrim". Now, I think those numbers are very low, or normal. But, at the time, I always felt fat.
During college I weighed around 130 pounds. Until, I went home one summer and weighed a whopping 142 pounds. Again, I was taken to a Dr. This was my introduction to prescription diet pills. I got down to 99 pounds in about 4 months. I got so many compliments and loved being thin and shopping for clothes.
Then, I don't know what happpened. I yo-yo ed for the next several years. I actually wore ankle weights to weigh in at a Weight Watchers meeting. Without the ankle weights, I didn't have enough to lose! Several years went by and boom, my highest 183 pounds. I think I saw a picture of myself and could not believe it. I was in my late twenties by then. For the next 10 years, I continued to go up and down, the lowest being 125.
When I decided to get the LAP-BAND®, I was 179 pounds. I am not even a month post op, and I'm already feeling like a failure because I have not been happy with the loss so far. Two days ago, I threw out my scale and fully intend to look forward and just do my best.
Being overweight has affected weather I'm happy or sad, I've been wearing black clothes daily for the last 10 years, my self esteem is at an all time low. I am 43 years old and don't want to continue the up and down cycle. I hope the LAP-BAND® gives me the ability to keep the weight down for the rest of my life. Maybe one day, I'll be happy!

Fort Bend Band · 08-04-2009, 04:28 PM

I think I am fat because food is comfort to me. I also think about food more than I believe the average person does. I had an angry father that caused everyone in the house to be on egg shells. I had a loving wonderful mother that treid to make up for the father we had. I was always the over weight one. I think I just turned to food for comfort. Now, even after being banded for over two years and lossing almost all of my weight, I still take way bigger portions than I can eat and I still want to eat more at night when everyone has gone to sleep. I do have a lot more awareness though about how I use food. The band has made me not be able to sabotage my weight loss even when I tried to at times. I am so greatful to my band for being a great tool to help me in my fight against over eating!

Erykah · 09-13-2009, 05:58 PM

Hey, just like a lot of you, I was taught "waste not, want not" we had to clean up our plates . . . we didn't have desserts (thank god) so I'm not a dessert person. . . my genetics however are huge. . . my biological dad is Objibwa Indian, 6'4" tall, 375 lbs, incredible large bone structure, mom is of russian/german descent, but of normal structure, however, her siblings are hugh, 6'0" is short and 350 lbs is the normal weight. . . so here i am 6'0" tall and 330 lbs. . . constant struggle . . . i can lose the weight and have at one time ago (lost 100 lbs) looked pretty darn good, but as soon as i stopped the phentermine, here it all came back on. . . i don't eat desserts, don't like candy, chocolate, ice cream, pies, or cakes, what i do like is good old home cooked FOOD. . . i don't enjoy eat out food either. . so what I have hanging off me is hearty meat and potatoes type of fat. . . but fortunately too I don't have a favorite food. . . but i LOVE to drink stuff. . . from water to juices, and anything in between. . . give me a glass of water and i'm happy, but i'll need more than 1. . . . so that is what made me fat . . .

JosShavaughn · 11-05-2009, 02:18 PM

Well for me, being fat has been a life long struggle. From childhood to age 17 I was VERY active, on soccer teams, dance, tap, cheerleading, gymnastics, then when I was in 7th grade my school started a swim team. I always loved to swim and I thought I was pretty good, so I tried out, and I made it, from 7th grade until when I dropped out in 11th, I was a competitive swimmer. I worked out 6x a week 2-3 hours a day. And guess what? I was the second biggest girl on the team! I wasn't consuming huge amounts of food besides the night before a meet when we carb loaded.

After I dropped out, that's when things went downhill. I started realizing that there was something wrong, like why couldn't I be a normal size when I was working out so much. Well then came college a few months later, and being such a shy person, I didn't ever want to go to the gym alone, so I rarely went. Then I left that school, got a job, had no means of working out really. Then I was back in school, but still didn't work out, and basically I haven't really worked out since I left high school.

I did discover that the constant weight gain was due to PCOS, and that I was almost fighting a losing battle. Finding out about the PCOS was such a breakthrough it explained a lot, like dark black facial hair, yeah, how embarrassing.

Late 2008 I finally decided to look into weight loss surgery. Now I'm STILL trying to get surgery, having difficulty due to stupid doctors who are big babies, or assholes. But I'm close.