Why are YOU Fat?

lynners · 10-19-2006, 07:26 PM

personally I blame the nuns, I have a problem with leaving food on my plate. Afterall there are still many starving children in the world. I would like to ask them if I need to be fat to make up for other people not having enough to eat. I can remember as a child of 10 finishing an adult size steak dinner. I remember I was so stuffed my stomach hurt and I was struggling to get the last french fries down because I didn't want to leave food on my plate. I will never tell my children to clean their plates. The problem plagues me to this day.

lynners · 10-19-2006, 07:26 PM

personally I blame the nuns, I have a problem with leaving food on my plate. Afterall there are still many starving children in the world. I would like to ask them if I need to be fat to make up for other people not having enough to eat. I can remember as a child of 10 finishing an adult size steak dinner. I remember I was so stuffed my stomach hurt and I was struggling to get the last french fries down because I didn't want to leave food on my plate. I will never tell my children to clean their plates. The problem plagues me to this day.

Boo Boo Kitty · 10-25-2006, 05:40 AM

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Originally Posted by lynners

personally I blame the nuns, I have a problem with leaving food on my plate. Afterall there are still many starving children in the world. I would like to ask them if I need to be fat to make up for other people not having enough to eat. I can remember as a child of 10 finishing an adult size steak dinner. I remember I was so stuffed my stomach hurt and I was struggling to get the last french fries down because I didn't want to leave food on my plate. I will never tell my children to clean their plates. The problem plagues me to this day.

I agree I never ever make my kids finnish if they tell me they are full. And another problem is 20 years ago adult portions were the size of kids portions, but NOW they are HUGE.

DerickM · 10-25-2006, 09:39 AM

I have been overweight most of my life, I am also hearing impaired (I wear hearing aids but I can speak very well) and wear thick glasses. Most of you I imagine will agree, School from K-12: SUCKED!

I had spinal menegitis when I was 2 yrs old and almost died from it. The docs said I had a 50-50 chance on the meds they were giving me but even if I was cured I would be blind or deaf from the amount and types of meds they had to give me at my age and a good chance of brain damage, luckliy no brain damage occured and I ended up being Hearing Impaired (about 10% hearing in each ear, so hence the hearing aids)

My mother was a druggie and more concerned with drugs and her freinds than me. She was physically abusive as well as emotionally abusive to me. Her idea of dinner or lunch was to pop a bag of popcorn or open a bag of chips for me. My father worked 2 jobs most of my childhood, he was not blame for any of this from my view becuase of stupid laws he had to wait and build his case in order to ensure that he got custody of his kids and not my druggie mother. So she left when I was 11 but the damage was done. Despite the best efforts of family my eating and weight kept going up, up and AWAY!.

Becuase of my early upbringing and lack of...I dunno what to call it maybe "love", "emotional development", etc. I never connected with my peers at all (no freinds, and any that tried got pushed away, hard), no romantic life (trust issues as well as a lack of knowing how to connect with another human being). So I have had a few suicide attempts, and...yeah, thats kinda my story...any questions send them to me as a PM and I will answer.

kyalpn · 11-08-2006, 12:56 PM

Hi everyone!

I'm new to the board, and as soon as I saw this thread, I had to stop what I was doing and start reading! Unfortunately, I'm under a bit of a time constraint, so I haven't been able to read all of your stories.

The main reason I'm fat is because I have Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, and I went undiagnosed basically from the time I was 12 up until 2 1/2 years ago. Oh, it wasn't from lack of trying to find answers. The doctors just never could find anything wrong. When my new OB/GYN told me what the problem was I was relieved. At least I wasn't crazy!

But while that is the main reason, it's not the only one. At the age of 13, I suddenly developed this little pot belly, and started hearing things like "Wow Kelly! You are getting so round!" "Kelly, you probably shouldn't eat that." "Doctor, why is Kelly overweight?" That really hurt, but I just stuffed it down and tried harder. When the diet failed, I felt like I had failed, and just gave up. I'd go right back to eating whatever I wanted. I'd sneak snacks up to my room so my parents wouldn't know. That just made me feel worse. You see where I'm going with this?

The control issue REALLY hits home! Once I started working, that was exactly the problem. My family lived 45 minutes away from the biggest city, so I had to spend lots of time on the road. And being 45 minutes away from home...well, who'd know what I ate? It didn't help that I worked at a fast food joint. I remember that one time one the way home from work, I hit every fast food drive thru, and convience store between my job and the highway. I even went out of my way for some. It was disgusting. When I got home, I found I was the only one there. I threw all the garbage out in the outside trash so no one would find it, and then went inside and threw up because I felt so gross. I vowed I'd never do that again.

Also, my family went through some real tough times. My parents have battled mental illness, the loss of their last child, near financial ruin...it didn't help that we didn't have the support of our church (we had no family in the area). As the oldest child, I took on the responsibility of keeping my 3 younger siblings together, and giving them a sense of normalcy, and didn't let anyone worry about me. Food was my friend and comforter at that time as well.

After that fateful binge, I kept my vow and never did that again, but I still had a problem with the defeatist attitude. The PCOS was still working against me, and everytime a diet failed and I gained back all the weight and more, I felt like a failure...one big cycle. I've since gotten into an environment that I feel nurtures me and helps me grow as a person. My family hates their part (well meaning as it was) in my ordeal and supports me 100% (they too are in a better environment, and have healed and are still healing thanks to God's grace). I know who I am and what I have to offer to this world. My choosing to go through weight loss surgery is so I can feel good about myself phsyically, and more importantly be healthy. I know what I need to do. This is for me and me alone. And if others are coming along with me for the ride and taking joy from whatever success I may have, that's just an added blessing.:)

kelly

**Kat817** · 11-08-2006, 01:31 PM

Welcome Kelly--LBT is an awesome site, and you will find some of the best advice and support around right here. Take time to read through the threads, and see if you have anyone local to your area. We are glad you are here, and soon you will be so glad you made this decision!!! My band is a blessing!!! Only wish I had done it sooner!!!
Good Luck, and again, Welcome!
Kat

angyl2314 · 11-08-2006, 07:46 PM

I am in the early stages of working toward band surgery, but I am whirl winding through my appointments so I can have the surgery in January. I am currently 235 lbs, 5'4". Was 272 bls, lost 55 on weight watchers in 2002-2003, at which time I reached a plateau and was not losing weight anymore. I became frustrated and stopped trying. Any time I tried to get reinvested, I was not seeing the results so I stopped trying. I was defeated by my own weight. I am disgusted now with myself, having put so much hard work into my weight loss and then to have gained a little weight back...MY BRAS ARE TIGHT. You women out there know that's a real problem. I decided to have the surgery and sometimes think I am making a rash decision. I really don't think I am in control of my weight. My doctor said it could be psychological (and the fact I was born with obviously no metabolism). My brother and I are obese, but no one else in the family. I would love to know why we are fat and why, even with hard work and dedication, I cannot control myself. I hope I am making the right decision.

kyalpn · 11-08-2006, 10:48 PM

Angyl2314--having surgery is a very personal, and at times, difficult decision. For me, I was more than ready. I too have been fighting my weight, and have been disgusted with my failures.

My advice is to make good and sure their isn't a medical reason for your weight problem (like a thyroid problem or like myself, I have PCOS) first. If it isn't something that can be fixed realitively simply, surgery might be your option.

But the biggest thing is that you have to be happy. Read everything you can find, ask as many questions as you have to. If you don't understand, ask again. I just found this site and am loving it, and I think you will too. As a nurse, I always tell my patients not to do anything they're not comfortable with. Go with your gut. And if surgery is for you, you'll know when you're ready.

kelly

KristiB · 11-08-2006, 11:13 PM

Well, I think my overweight stems from several things. First, I have a great-grandmother, a grandfather, a grandmother, and my dad who are all very overweight. My grandfather not so much anymore, due to he became diabetic and had to lose weight. I have a little overweight coming from moms side as well. Second, I also LOVE sweets. I can stay away from them if I am not hungry, but I binge if I am hungry. Third, and I think this has as much to do with it as the others combined....I was not raped, but some things happened to me when I was in the 4th or 5th grade. I didn't know who to tell, I was embarrassed, so I tried to tell my friends. They LAUGHED at me, and made remarks like"who'd want to do that to you? You're not pretty. They must have been desperate." etc. These are not quotes, mind you, but a general idea of what was said. I have not spoken to a psychiatrist or anything, but I personally believe that is why I overeat, because subconsciously I want to be unattractive so it won't happen again. Or something to that effect. I was also a bit promiscious as a teen, and I think Iwas trying to prove to myself that yes, someone DID find me attractive in that way......

Thats why I am fat...........
Kristi
Thanks for posting this thread...I haven't reallly explained my ideas to anyone else before, and it feels goood to get it off my chest.

sweethot143 · 11-09-2006, 03:28 AM

Food is comfortable for me. I just love the full feeling, if i'm not full i think I have to eat something. I know enough to make healthy choices, i keep bowls of fruit in the kitchen, i don't buy snack foods. I overeat on meals, because I eat like it's thanksgiving, until i'm stuffed to the gills, lol.
It's like being in a zone, i'm not satisfied unitl all of the food is gone. I even finsih what my kids leave. I crave sweets, but only allow myself dessert once a week.
the only exception to this lifestyle is when I am pregnant, I have no appetite, two bits make me full if I am hungry, and I don't have an attachment to the food like I do normally. Ironically, I only lose weight by having a baby!
I'm hoping the Lap Band gives me the appetite as when I am preggo.

angyl2314 · 11-09-2006, 11:27 AM

Sweet, my weight goals are the same as yours. Do you know when you are being banded? I think I AM ready. I just get really freaked out when hearing words like "slippage", "PBs", "vomitting", "growling", "erosion" and most importantly "weight gain" if the band is removed. My intention is to rejoin weight watchers with my mom (who is on maintenance) to correct my lapsed eating judgment. I was very disciplined while on WW, but lost the initiative when the weight stopped dropping. I think with the tool (the band) and the support of WW I will be okay. I am concerned though about how I will be viewed (in WW) and/or treated if it becomes known that I have been banded. WW is all about natural weight loss, but I think some of us really do need a little help. It has been emphasized that the band is not supposed to be looked at as something that will be put in just long enough to reach a weight goal and then removed, but I have to admit that if how I am currently looking at it. I am uneasy with having a foreign body inside of me, which is why I am trying to become involved in other intervention methods and behavioral management programs. I have so many thoughts flying through my mind...I just want to get it over with and it has barely even started lol

sweethot143 · 11-09-2006, 02:54 PM

Angy, I don't have a date yet, my first appointment is monday! I can hardly sleep I am so excited!

harlito · 11-13-2006, 04:41 PM

Why are you fat?

Because toast and apple butter go so well with Saturday morning cartoons...family means fried chicken and mashed potatoes...do you want a small helping or alot? "Alot please."...there's always cookies in the house...An apple or a Star Crunch? "Two Star Crunches, please."...You don't have to be active to enjoy music in your headset...what else do people do at 2AM but eat?...family means fried chicken and corn...sweet cereal every morning is a great way to start the day...Do you want extra butter on your pancakes?"Of course!"...custardy French toast tastes so good when Mrs.Buttworth makes 'em...baked fish?YUCK...an orange or a Ding Dong?"Ding Dong, please."...Land Of The Lost comes on at eleven and its time for lunch...family means fried chicken and apple pie or cheesecake...cheesecake...cheesecake...Blue Bell tastes just like the good ol' days...it's not a salad without ranch dressing...there is still some spaghetti on the stove...A banana or a cupcake?"Cupcake, please."...family means fried chicken and french fries...cornbread dressing on the side...two pans worth...or three...family means fried chicken and cornbread dressing...cheesecake..."Honey, did you get plenty to eat? We got more if you're still hungry"...you can have some Oreo cookies after you mow the lawn...funerals mean banana pudding...

Is this enough?

MissyC · 11-13-2006, 05:12 PM

I too am a smell and texture junkie!!!!!
And I just love food, the way it looks, smells and tastes and the memories associated with all my favorite comfort foods.
I have been slightly overweight most of my life. Not obese but probably 10-15 lbs over. Since my mid 30's I have steadily gained, year after year. Trying and failing at countless diet and exercise programs. (But suceeding in achieving morbid obesity), what a lovely title.
I was hopeless, depressed and starting to develop co-morbidities.
So I started researching WLS. And here I am.

StephC · 11-15-2006, 05:56 PM

Missy that sounds like me - the past 16 years I put on about 80 lbs, thats an average of about 5 lbs a year, but with all of my dieting ups and downs... its just been crazy - and yes I do love food, I always have but when I was younger I could binge and then not eat again for 24 hours and it never bothered me. Of course I lived on coffee and cigerettes then too. I quit smoking for real 16 years ago - after 14 years of not smoking I started again - I always had it in the back of my head that I could go back to the cigerettes and coffee thing and lose weight, well that was a lie right out of the pit of hell! I still loved food and ate just like I always did but now I had coughing fits and couldn't walk without being out of breath. So I quit smoking 1 1/2 years now - and decided I'm going to do whatever it takes to lose this weight and I believe the band is what it is going to take. I've said this in another post but I believe when the bible talks about plucking out your eye if it offends you ... well my stomach is very offending so I'm banding it for life!