Why are YOU Fat?

puddin · 01-25-2006, 05:35 PM

Maybe they said it was crap because it sounds so extreme that they didn't believe you. Truthfully, it's beyond anything I could imagine growing up with. Sounds like hell on earth! I'm so glad you broke the cycle for your own children.

Nykee · 01-26-2006, 09:43 AM

This person knows for a fact its all true... He just doesnt think it's crap that i say it has anything to do with getting my self all obese and feeling obsessive with junk food.

Marimaru · 01-26-2006, 10:22 AM

The pictures of your kids were great, but you've mentioned them in other posts, and I've just gathered the impression that you've done alot of things for your kids to make sure they didn't go through what you went through.

Nykee · 01-26-2006, 10:39 AM

Ok, thanks.. I gues I dont realize how much I say at this place,,
(hugs))

DiDi · 01-26-2006, 02:43 PM

Wow, Nykee what a hard life. You really broke my heart. I was poor but we almost always had something, maybe just rice but always something. I do remember school lunches were the greatest. But remember you are not full of crap. You are not crap. You are a kind & generous woman who is doing the best she can & hang in there. 63 lbs is great & we are here for you. We are here for you & love you.

Nykee · 01-26-2006, 10:55 PM

oh thankyou so much.. your kind..:)

It really wasnt that bad, I mean compared to so many... I only had a few bad years, many have a lifetime..

I didnt post it for sympathy, but I know thats not what your giving..

I just get alittle peeved when people think its crap when I am only giving some psychological reasonings.. not excuses!
ya know..

Thanks again

nj dee · 01-29-2006, 03:47 PM

I too eat like that, BIG!! I know how how you feel

dawg · 01-29-2006, 06:31 PM

First post on the Board (photonut is my missus and I figured I could get something out of this, even unbanded).

I hit morbid obesity by medical standards by... hell damn near by birth (10 lbs + baby).

There's all sorts of reasons I can point at for my overweight status:

Genetics (Brother, Mother, Father (before he died) - all fight with their weight)
Parents (You eat all of that or no dessert for you!)
Friends (wanna go for pizza?)
Beer (I'd love to go for a beer).
Inactivity
work (desk job)
Hobby (online gaming, programming)
Food (I like the taste of food!)
Speed (I eat way too fast)

Trouble is I can only give two really good reasons why I am fat:
Lack of self control.
Greed.

I certainly didn't eat out of hunger. I ate because:
It was time.
It was there.

I am fat because food was available, I'd eat whether I was hungry or not. I would eat all that was there from greed and lack of self control. Harsh but, for myself, true.

I wish I could rely on my big list of reasons, but in my heart I know its not true. My body has now started screaming at me if I abuse it. Wish it hadn't come to that!

missy4gordon · 02-01-2006, 04:35 PM

I am fat because I am lazy and bored, plain and simple. I was a popular teenage cheerleader and basketball player, (looking back now I know I was thin and cute, but didn't think so at the time). Very active in high school and I worked part time. My mom did everything, cooked good meals, cleaned the house, did laundry. I had no responsiblity at home and never learned to cook, so now as an adult, my husband does more than his share of household stuff. I sit and stare at a computer at work all day for over ten years now and ate nothing but junk while doing it. I'd go home and eat very unhealthy supper, eating out because I can't, or don't want to cook, sit and watch TV the rest of the night, and that has been going on for many years now. When I got pregnant the first time, I thought that gave me license to eat even more and do even less, and I was honestly shocked when the weight didn't fall off after the baby came out, I had never had a weight problem before so I really was shocked at how big I got. I hate healthy food and LOVE all the junk.

It's all my fault and now I am paying for it.

Nykee · 02-01-2006, 11:50 PM

no dissrespect.. but i wish I got fat that way..
Not really but GAWD I feel exhausted with life at the moment and want someone to TAKE CARE OF ME!! (I say not really cuz I have been coddled before and it did me NO good!)
;) wahhh

chatt.earthmom · 02-04-2006, 09:40 PM

My parents showed us love by providing food. My mother cooked healthy food and we were expected to clean our plates. If we didn't like what she cooked it was taken as personal rejection. I grew up almost an only child with my sister 10 years older. We had no close neighbors with kids and no activities during the summer unless it was working in the garden. My parents grew up in the depression and knew what it was like to do without, they were determined we never would. Somehow I think it was a combination of eating for entertainment and out of a sense of loyalty and gratitude that led to food being my "abusive lover". I have been banded since Nov. 18, 2005 and have lost a total of 51 lbs including my presurgery diet. Food is still my lover. It is more like a dating relationship now than a live in arrangement. I am trying to learn to set boundaries and the band is helping.
Corliss
373/356/322 Goal-Onward and Downward!

fiveholts714 · 02-04-2006, 11:11 PM

Because I eat too much

dawg · 02-04-2006, 11:14 PM

I'm just big boned.

Yes, thats right, I have a 200 pound skeletal structure. No... reallly.

tinalondon · 02-06-2006, 07:44 PM

Now can you have junk (once a week or so)
I had chicken cutlets tonight, I could only eat one..the old days I could eat...5 or 6..or more..
Well I'm at the half way mark...I had 90 to loose and as of today..I'm down 45...it can happen!

Dawn_from_MN · 02-12-2006, 12:18 AM

I think I can blame a number of different things. First I have a thyroid problem, but I know that alone doesn't cause all my problems. I also blame diets. I have always been heavy. I never obessed on food until I started to diet. I have to be thankful for this thread. I am trying to quit smoking. I have been gaining weight the entire time I haven't been smoking two months now without a cigarette. I think I was using non smoking as an excuse to eat badly. I think reading these posts made me see what I was doing to myself.
I was banded on 10-21-04
240/192/130 was 180 two months ago