I guess I am just venting... but I am so sick of being single. I still feel like the type of guys that I like, won't like me b/c of my weight. I have tried plenty of fish but just keep meeting guys who are old or big babies that throw tantrums and expect a woman to be a servant. I feel like I am going to be alone forever. Should i just settle on someone whom I don't like so much? I just still feel like the big girl that everyone is friends with. :(

I hear ya sista

I too am on plenty of fish, and only seem to be meeting duds! I am starting to believe that there are no decent men left!

Don't be in such a rush to marry. I'm a big girl. Been married and even had a wealthy, handsome boyfriend for 12 years. I never thought I would ever want anyone else. But I have changed. I haven't even had surgery yet. It's a head change. He and I are not compatable. It was comfortable. Work on you. Love you. Once you have lost all the weight you want to loose; are comfortable being without someone; then you will find the right one. If you settle; you will miss Mr. right. That is how it always works. You deserve the best. Don't settle for less.

Should i just settle on someone whom I don't like so much?

NEVER!


You'll get there when you get there. Never settle. =) In the mean time, just change pods or fishing gear. ;) Have fun!

your only 28, don't worry you'll meet the right one when it's time. I didn't meet the right guy until I was 40 and I have been blessed. I hope it doesn't take you until your 40. I'm sure not trying to bring you down I'm just saying it will happen. lots of luck and happy hunting!!!

I dont expect everyone to be Mr Right, but I wouldnt mind having some fun with a few Mr Not So Bads in the meantime.

Thanks guys!

I probably watch entirely too much Sex and the City, but I figure the right one will come along eventually and in the mean time, bootycalls are a wonderful thing. I spent years so determined to find "the one" that I missed out on all kinds of fun in the interim and drove myself crazy.

So I'm praising the bootycall and enjoying (what's left of!) my 20s as a single girl and I'm learning to not obsess over finding Mr. Right.

(One thing I've found with POF in particular, I have better luck clicking with people when I go to the meets than going on one on one dates. Maybe it's something to do with being in a large group of people, I have no idea, but I find I'm way more successful that way.) :biggrin2:

Ahaha i am not even gonna try to get guys right now, not worth it LOL

I am on plenty of fish, too. I didn't have much luck on that site, either! Though I feel the same was as you, trust me when I say that there are a lof of men who like big women! Try tangowire.com. they have a lot of specialty sites, including those for bbw lovers.

I agree.. I tried the FB but that just got emotions involved.. what a mess!

I met my husband in a AOL chat room . I'm happy and I know how hard it is to a find a good man. A friend of mine had good luck on match.com.

FBs can be good, great, but the whole emotion thing gets in the way. I decided a while ago that I didn't have time for emotion. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends and we wouldn't be FB if weren't friends, but the whole lovey-dovey, where will this go, yada yada yada needs to be left behind.

I was happily divorced two years ago after being with the same person half my life... and I was only 31 at the time. Since then, I have focused on school, work, and now my health. I have learned more about me in past couple of years than my entire life combined, and I love that! FBs help fill in the blanks without the emotional hassle.

Hmmm, I derailed a bit, but I guess my point is to enjoy what you have right now, focus on you, and the rest will get there when you need it to.

Happy 4th!!