Husband doesn't notice weight loss

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The nice thing is .... yes, I know he loves me no matter what my weight it. BTW, He is thin and stays that way.

It's just that after taking such drastic measures to take the weight off, I would love it if he complimented me.

If I have to ask him or tell him to do it, it just isn't the same. I'll wait it out.

Great responses from everyone tho.

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Banded 07/09/09 (12cc Band)


7/9/09 at surgery 2.7cc (felt restriction 4 weeks)
8/28/09 1st fill +1.2cc = 3.9cc (restriction 3 wks)
09/25/09 2nd fill +1.4cc = 5.3cc (very tight 15 days...then good restriction) Sweet spot ?

I think my fiancee didn't really start actively commenting on the difference in me until around 65 pounds lost or so. But often I have to ask him about it - he won't always actively compliment me.

I think its not because hes trying to be cold or that he doesn't notice, but I think its because he doesn't want to put more pressure on me. I put a lot of pressure on myself to lose XX amount of pounds by XX date and he doesn't want to add to that pressure. Maybe that is the case with your hubby, also?

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Ultimate Goal

Successfully Banded: June 18, 2009
First Fill: July 28, 2009 (5cc); Second Fill: August 25, 2009 (2cc - total of 7cc); Third Fill: September 25, 2009 (1 cc - total of 8cc); Fourth Fill: October 28, 2009 (1cc - total of 9cc)
First Goal (215 pounds): 23.Oct.2009

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http://violinistwithaband.blogspot.com/

I lost the majority of my weight before I met my fiance. I have lost about 30 lbs since meeting him...he didn't say anything until one morning I asked him how come he would "move my butt around" during the night...he said "because your bones are poking me...if you loose anymore I will need pads!" That was enough for me

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First Visit w/Dr Stephan - April 11, 2007
Changed to Dr. Stephanie(Tyler, TX) Jan 09!
Band date - May 7, 2007


"Rather than aiming for being perfect, just aim to be little bit better today than you were yesterday. "
--Anonymous

Hi Humming Bird,

I have lost 70+ lbs. with "no" compliment from my husband. To be honest, I think it's petty on their part.

I agree that if you have to ask for a compliment, it's just not the same.

I think there are some underlying issues whey they are behaving like that, but life is too short to worry about it.

He's a good person, I guess I just have to let some things go. When I'm ready, I'll ask him why.

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LAP BANDS ARE NOT FOR SISSIES!

Could be he has been there before. 6 yrs ago My DH waited til I dropped 100# till he commented. I gained it back and more, then had the band. Lost 100# again, no comment yet.

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Sue in NE Banded 12/1/08
1st Fill 2/4/09; 2nd 2/18/09; 3rd 03/11/09; 4th 5/13/09; 5th fill 8/6/09; deflate; 6th fill 8/26/09; 7th 11/4/09
Wt- start/surgery /now/ goal
320/290/217.5/150 at least