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Originally Posted by Arley
Sorry that your doctor is hard on you. Maybe he thinks it will motivate you more, but it can also do the opposite.
Hang in there! |
It does the opposite with me. He will say things like "you are on track with the average loser but at this rate you will slow down and stop losing, so you need to step it up."
It seems like a double entendre.
I always leave deflated.
I used to go in feeling like, "wow for the first time in my life, I'm losing!"
Then after a few visits it was "well at least I lost."
Now it is more like, "why can't I lose more!"
I'm working on this. It is a mental thing with me. I seem to take others opinions over mine.
I did tell him off, in a kind sophisticated way.

I basically told him that maybe "people like me"
(a category he made up with that title) have not failed the Lap Band but rather you've failed our category. I told him he seemed to have no room for those who lose slowly. A few other things, and it did feel good to have at least been able to state my point, and not just nod and go home deflated.
Working on not being too sensitive so that I can take constructive criticism, and yet confident enough to take the good and toss the useless information.
Thanks.