A Few Tips From A Slow Loser - Now Past Goal -

Meliwriter · 08-27-2009, 08:59 AM

Thanks Marivan and Love2teech7! It's so helpful to know that I am not the first person to struggle with losing the pounds even with the surgery. I've always been active and made an effort to understand the types of food I was putting into my body and yet it's difficult for me to drop pounds. My father is the same way and he is a madman in the gym. I think I thought that given how much I work out, that the weight loss would happen quicker with the band, but as long as it comes off...I'm okay with that.

The hardest thing at this point is dealing with other people's expectations. I didn't tell a ton of people about the surgery because I knew it would take a long time for me to get to goal, but it's difficult when family and friends question how much I've lost and make judgments about my progress. Since I've been stuck at 35lbs I feel like I'm still at that point where people are thinking, I told you this wouldn't work, or I knew you couldn't do this! I just can't wait to prove them wrong!

On a side note, I have another appointment for a fill in September. So I'm just going to stick to my rules and watch my protein.

I'm glad you all have found peace with where you are on your journey and wish you luck!

Melis

marivan · 08-27-2009, 09:54 AM

Hi Melis,

I know exactly how you feel. I only told maybe five or six close friends (one friend told her whole family, which I wasn't pleased about, but they don't really know me or say anything) and I am so glad because I was worried about any sorts of judgements.

Like you, I certainly didn't think it would still be such a struggle. But in a way, it is has proven to me that I wasn't lying, I wasn't telling others fibs when I said I couldn't understand why I wasn't losing weight when I was doing everything right. Because here I have a tool that doesn't allow me to eat large portions, I am not eating "slider" foods or junk to get around the band and the weight is taking it's own sweet time coming off. I was on a plateau for seven months and then just recently lost ten pounds in a matter of weeks and now it has stopped there again. Meanwhile I keep exercising and improving, and compete only against myself.

Isn't it wonderful after all these years to know that all those doctors, friends and family who blamed you for being lazy or greedy weren't right like you knew they weren't?

I've had a doctor say to me "No one came out of Belsen fat". What a terrible thing to say. But you know, I'll bet that even in a concentration camp, some people got thin a lot slower than the others. Perhaps were even thought to be eating more than their share.

My Mother has always been very large and she even spent a summer in a hospital and I don't recall that she lost much of it then. We have our genes to thank for this.

Keep happy with how you are doing and if anyone makes comments say you are happy with your progress, it is what your body seems to want.

Take care,
M

Msvmk · 09-22-2009, 11:38 PM

I just wanted to tell you thxs for the information you provided in this post. Ive been banded for 3 months going threw the ups and down, I have a small band, currently at 2.5cc, down 58lbs just reached the point I can only eat seafood, no other meats. I was really concerned about not being able to eat enough so I added more protein. Today I made a 52gram protein smoothie for breakfast which was at 7am. Well around 3pm I realized I hadnt even thought about eating. I tried to eat and of course you know what happened. I waited 2hrs then tried again and dumped again. I couldnt wait to get home and chat with my bandsters friends and ran up on this blog. I was wondering why some days Im able to tolerate more than others and I now realize its the amount of proteins I begin my day with. Thxs again and congrats on your success.

Glammaw · 09-23-2009, 01:06 PM

I, too, am a slow loser. I have lost 39 pounds since band, 49 since process began. It has been 10 months since my surgery. My doctor says he doesn't know why I am not losing more and gave me the rotation diet. No more diets for me. This is a way of life now. I guess I have become comfortable where I am. But, at 59, 49 pounds is a good loss. I am not finished yet, but just letting my body adjusts for itself. I have an appt. for a fill with a new doctor on 10/1 and I am hoping he will offer me encouragement, along with the fill. In any case, I am going to keep doing what I am doing and let God take care of the rest. It is all about the journey, not the destination.