Is it selfish?

PhotoEgor · 04-15-2008, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by mom2bbb

To have 4 small children, and go through the banding surgery? WHAT IF something bad should happen? (death) The person is question has no comorbidities, and is able to excercise just fine.

4 small children sounds like a pretty darn good reason to have the surgery if you ask me. The risk of the surgery are very minor compared to an early death and not being around to see those kids grow up. Don't let anyone say your are being selfish, this is an expression of love and desire to be there when they need you in the future.

So go for it, and let everyone know about your progress.

gk

Aphrodite1984 · 05-18-2008, 09:33 PM

Oh my god....I just read a thread that says Mom2bbb did in fact die a few weeks ago. This is really sad....and especially since she was feeling so guilty about doing it. I just cant help but feel so sad for her husband and children. Things like this really make me question my decision........

80s_chick · 05-18-2008, 10:02 PM

What? Oh my goodness! I am going to see if I can find that thread. How sad! She must have had something else going on...wow. I don't know what to say.

MollyMolly · 05-18-2008, 10:14 PM

There's nothing yet to suggest it was band related. It's just terrible though. :(

Livingthe Dream · 05-19-2008, 01:27 PM

Well I am a dad but I can tell you honestly that living with my Mom for 16 years was a primary reason for me getting this surgery. I looked at her constant struggle with weight and realized that I better do something. I paid for my surgery myself and went from a 44 waist to a 35 inch waist and feeling great. It saddens me that my mom who is now 55 years old is going back to weight watchers for another round of counseling and over priced food. I told my Mom that as a gift I would get her the surgery and she wouldn't do it.

The short answer is do it and the make sure your kids don't follow your poor example of bad eating( I am assuming here). Make sure now that when you hit 60 years old your still not in the same boat you are in now. Don't let you kids walk that struggle with you for the next 20 years.

Livingthe Dream · 05-19-2008, 01:29 PM

Oh my god, Someone please tell me that is not the case. I think I am going to be sick.

Froggi · 05-19-2008, 02:07 PM

They don't know the reason for her death yet. Her husband isn't blaming the band. But yes it is sad that she is gone. May she RIP

Livingthe Dream · 05-19-2008, 02:13 PM

I research and found the link from her husband. I stopped reading the minute I confirmed it to be true because I know the decision was weighing heavy on her mind.

renewedhope · 05-19-2008, 02:13 PM

I read this yesterday and didn't post anything because I didn't know what to say. I know he isn't blaming the band, but for me, that really doesn't matter. Fact is, she was starting a new, healthier life, and now she is gone. I have not been able to shake this. Did she somehow know that she was near the end??? Even if it turns out that it was band related, we all know that there is that risk. I love my band. This makes me more aware of how blessed I am with my band, my health, and my beautiful family. For you, mom2bbb, I will make the most of today, because that is really all I have....

80s_chick · 05-19-2008, 03:28 PM

I was really freaked out to read about what happened. She was having the same symptoms that I am, and my doctor just totally blew me off! I am glad that he posted her story because it really has inspired me to act instead of not finding another doctor!

Livingthe Dream · 05-19-2008, 04:26 PM

So what I have learned from this is to not advise people on life altering decisions when you don't have a clue as to what you are talking about. I was just doing my usual chatting and didn't read all the post before commenting. I feel just horrible for those kids and even angrier at the outcome of her surgery. How did this happen and is the infection not a direct cause by the surgery itself? I didn't know this lady and never once responded to a posting of hers till today and I feel terrible. You could tell the dad did not want to create a huge uproar on this site and tried to stay objective but I know it still hurts to go back and read her words and her thoughts.

Aphrodite1984 · 05-19-2008, 07:29 PM

I can't help but to wonder if she did have some idea that something would go wrong. It makes me wonder if this is just a coincidence that I am reading this thread just one week before my surgery. Is this a warning?

Hippiemama · 05-20-2008, 11:27 AM

Oh my word, I feel sick.

Hippiemama · 05-20-2008, 11:29 AM

Where are you reading that she is gone? I can't find it.

Hippiemama · 05-20-2008, 11:35 AM

Never mind, I found it :(