about fantasies / relationship

KristyLynn · 05-18-2008, 06:01 PM

my best friend admitted to me that she thought of another guy while she had sex with her bf last night. i clicked over to my bf and he said "fantasies are a part of life...don't you do that sometimes?....'nooooooooooooo...lol......' .. "oh, i see how it is.*joke* .. " then i said .. "NO! I SEE HOW IT IS! lol........."

whoa.

i got hit from both sides. best friend and boyfriend telling me in the same 5 minutes that they think of someone else during sex.

how should i be feeling about this? dayum. in my opinion...it's just like another insecurity to add to the pile. he's on top of me...or is he? lol. i watch him check out other girls. etc etc etc. you know? if i get the surgery and things turn around ...wouldn't it be a lie?

Miss Michelle · 05-18-2008, 06:36 PM

Ok, wow. I think this is a great case of somethings are better kept to yourself. Hearing this from a best friend is one thing but a boyfriend/spouse is totally different. Maybe its stupid of me but even if I had that experiance of thinking of someone else I would never tell my hubby something like that simply because I would not want to hear if he does! I'd rather talk about our fantasies that we can act out together

. Sometimes guy say things without thinking and he was probably just responding because the assumed you'd say something similar. I would not worry to much if hes a good guy but I would atleast tell him how you feel.

KristyLynn · 05-19-2008, 01:11 AM

thank you, that's exactly where i left off with him. he knows how i feel now. and . . i guess .. lol. that's all we can do for now. he actually told me recently that he "doesn't" do that with me, but he has with other ppl before. buuuuuuuuut.....i dunno.. haha. you know, one of those "lies" to not hurt the other person. maybe. bleh. lol. anyways, thank you!

marineliebe · 05-19-2008, 02:08 PM

I've thought of other men during sex, but I would never tell the person that I was actully with that. And I woudln't want him to tell me that if he did. I know its kind of a double standard, but thats how I feel. I know if I do it, he probally does too, but I dont' want to hear it from him lol. like musso said, i'ed rather talk about a fantisy that we can have together.