Social Events

Benellid · 06-01-2008, 10:52 PM

This thread goes hand in hand with keeping the band a secret. How do you guys manage yourselves at social functions where people notice you're not your usual self with all the drinking and eating they were use to you doing? :confused2:

Jachut · 06-01-2008, 11:01 PM

seriously, people just plain arent all that interested in what you eat and drink. They dont notice.

But being banded is not like wearing a sign across your head, at social events I do have a glass of wine, maybe even 2, just not six! And I do eat whatever's on offer, just not huge platefuls of it. That doesnt stand out as "weird" to anyone, in fact that's what most non fat people do at social functions.

Being banded to me means moderation in all things, not having to go to social things with your jaw taped shut. I just enjoy them in moderation!

**Jack** · 06-02-2008, 09:52 AM

"Usual self" is an preBand concept that for me was full display of using a social event to excuse over consumption...

The NEW 'usual self' postBand means you are concerned with YOUR BODY and YOUR HEALTH, not what you think your friends might think of what you eat and drink.

If they are your friends, they will understand and don't have that expectation in the first place.

If they aren't your friends, it doesn't matter what they think.

What matters, is each day we make the choice to not continue our old ruinous over eating over drinking self destruction.

Cheers on your journey.

mediummike · 06-02-2008, 03:59 PM

I think Jacqui pretty much much nailed it on the head. I have not and will not stop attending social functions (and trust me, I go to plenty). I find it easier than I thought it would be to keep everything in moderation and have a great time. I do understand where you may be coming from when you say you are concerned about what people would say (as I was), but as Jacqui said, they really do not care for the most part. In fact, when people ask how I lost the weight so far, I enjoy telling them about the band and I have not received anything but 100% encouragement and kudos. Obviously I am hanging around a pretty good crowd in that they are more interested in my well being rather than why I am not having too many beers...

**Jack** · 06-03-2008, 08:09 AM

....a phrase I found useful for those instances when pushed by overly inquisitive folks who insisted on 'why' I was getting THINNER....if I didn't want to give them the details for one reason or another....

....I'd tell them "Clean living and righteous thoughts"....

HAR!!!

scared most of them I was about to launch into an unpredictable religious diatribe....never had even ONE pursue it beyond that...

and in a way, that IS what we are doing anyway...