No, Im not a failure. Thanks for asking.
Posted 03-10-2009 at 10:08 PM by ajoneen
HI all.
Im hearing alot of self bashing going on. Believe me I'm just as hard on myself. I think there is something happening that needs to be looked into. It is a vicious cycle.
Scale stops moving, "I must be a failure".
Didn't exercise for a few days "I must be a failure".
Shouldn't have eaten that cookie "I'm a failure".
Im not at goal "I failed"
I'm a failure so I might as well;
-eat all the other cookies
- just lay in bed
- sit and watch another mind numbing TV show
-look back and beat myself up for all my short comings.
Yep the motivation isn't as strong as when we first started this journey. Im not sure I will ever be that motivated again. But to say I'm a failure is just not correct.
These last few weeks I've been trying to find my MoJo again. When I have a particularity good day I try to see what made it so good. Why did I bounce out of bed, work so hard with my trainer, take the dog for a walk and go to yoga class? Plus I made good food choices. So what gives? Is there a way to bottle this and reproduce it on the days Im just not getting it in gear?
Because when Im at that place where I don't want to move my body or the peanut butter is looking really good willpower is out the door. It is really easy to say F it I'm just not meant to lose another 10lbs (or 1lb).
So Im left to try to acknowledge what works. Really mindfully acknowledge that something is going right. Maybe even write myself notes of encouragement to the sorry self I might be the next day. Focus on the good. We all know what we are bad at. What is hard. Directing your energy to trying to figure out a negative will just keep you in that negative place. So why not find what you're good at and build on that.
Do you work out more consistently with another person? Well make it your business to get a buddy or join a group.
Do you need to make a commitment to something? Do a charity walk where they have training help. Like the Avon 3 Day Walk.
Does telling your story about the band and your decision to get it remind you why you did this in the first place? Than offer to talk at your Drs support group or informational meeting. Be a mentor here on LBT.
Do you do well with a list or goals? Than write a few and support them with an action plan of how you will succeed.
Do you struggle with food choices? Start using The Daily Plate/Calorie King or whatever. Set yourself up with a menu for the next day or the whole week. Make a list before you go shopping, and stick to it.
You get the idea. Find what works. Baby steps. Stop beating yourself up about what you haven't done. Be kind to yourself.
-Since I choose not to have another cookie I feel empowered.
-That walk yesterday really energized me, how can I fit in another one tomorrow?
-I have come so far on my journey and Im still committed to a more healthy lifestyle.
We all slip up. Sometimes for a day sometimes for a few weeks. Main thing is you have it within yourself to make the change. For Gods sake at some point you were motivated enough to get the band. Pat yourself on the back and shout "WooHoo!" Move forward. Tomorrow is a new day.
I think you're doing a great job!!
Im hearing alot of self bashing going on. Believe me I'm just as hard on myself. I think there is something happening that needs to be looked into. It is a vicious cycle.
Scale stops moving, "I must be a failure".
Didn't exercise for a few days "I must be a failure".
Shouldn't have eaten that cookie "I'm a failure".
Im not at goal "I failed"
I'm a failure so I might as well;
-eat all the other cookies
- just lay in bed
- sit and watch another mind numbing TV show
-look back and beat myself up for all my short comings.
Yep the motivation isn't as strong as when we first started this journey. Im not sure I will ever be that motivated again. But to say I'm a failure is just not correct.
These last few weeks I've been trying to find my MoJo again. When I have a particularity good day I try to see what made it so good. Why did I bounce out of bed, work so hard with my trainer, take the dog for a walk and go to yoga class? Plus I made good food choices. So what gives? Is there a way to bottle this and reproduce it on the days Im just not getting it in gear?
Because when Im at that place where I don't want to move my body or the peanut butter is looking really good willpower is out the door. It is really easy to say F it I'm just not meant to lose another 10lbs (or 1lb).
So Im left to try to acknowledge what works. Really mindfully acknowledge that something is going right. Maybe even write myself notes of encouragement to the sorry self I might be the next day. Focus on the good. We all know what we are bad at. What is hard. Directing your energy to trying to figure out a negative will just keep you in that negative place. So why not find what you're good at and build on that.
Do you work out more consistently with another person? Well make it your business to get a buddy or join a group.
Do you need to make a commitment to something? Do a charity walk where they have training help. Like the Avon 3 Day Walk.
Does telling your story about the band and your decision to get it remind you why you did this in the first place? Than offer to talk at your Drs support group or informational meeting. Be a mentor here on LBT.
Do you do well with a list or goals? Than write a few and support them with an action plan of how you will succeed.
Do you struggle with food choices? Start using The Daily Plate/Calorie King or whatever. Set yourself up with a menu for the next day or the whole week. Make a list before you go shopping, and stick to it.
You get the idea. Find what works. Baby steps. Stop beating yourself up about what you haven't done. Be kind to yourself.
-Since I choose not to have another cookie I feel empowered.
-That walk yesterday really energized me, how can I fit in another one tomorrow?
-I have come so far on my journey and Im still committed to a more healthy lifestyle.
We all slip up. Sometimes for a day sometimes for a few weeks. Main thing is you have it within yourself to make the change. For Gods sake at some point you were motivated enough to get the band. Pat yourself on the back and shout "WooHoo!" Move forward. Tomorrow is a new day.
I think you're doing a great job!!
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Very nice entry.. Mucho Kudos :)Posted 03-11-2009 at 12:23 AM by Handrews
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wow. you have no idea how badly I needed to read that. I have been falling into "I'm a failure" for almost 4 months. Still playing around with my fills--not getting full quickly and making horrible food choices that cause me to make more horrible choices. However--I have joined a weight training class and I have not gone above 240 in a month. These are good things.
While I'm not sure if I'm fully out of my funk--I know I have been out of it before and can get there again.
Many THANKS for your words.Posted 03-11-2009 at 01:59 AM by MeganMatters -
Good advice...I will try to do better, and be more positive. Thanks for the post.Posted 03-11-2009 at 11:42 PM by Sandy Beach -
Well said!Posted 03-30-2009 at 04:17 PM by Sunshine2
