My own perspective: It's always distressing to lose a friend...yet that is part of the Natural Order.
Over the years, through MANY stages, I've lost friends at each change in my own life. And theirs as well.
When I drank beer and quit, some of my friends drifted away. When I moved away from classic hot rods and motor vechicles...my friends list changed. After riding motorcycles everywhere for over 40 years and suddenly lost the fever, they motored off without me. When I quit other outdoors experiences-hunting, fly fishing, etc....most of them went on down the trail without me. And so it was with many other phases.
When I graduated from various schools, or moved....the list in my phone book also changed.
Without looking too deeply into the psychodynamics of this matter...and without plotting revenge or falling into self-pity or 'you dirty dog' style of interpersonal jousting....
what you take from this is memories. Maybe you will rekindle your friendship, maybe not. Frankly, that she was able to verbalize so well is surprising. And what you do with HER is not so important as what SHE does now with HERSELF.
You will be plenty busy as you head into your New Life. She can be part of it, or not. You can shut her out, shut her up, or invite her in. Any way you do it, you have gained from that past relationship.
Life moves onward. New relationships await; old ones mutate, evolve or disintegrate. There is no point in 'being destroyed'. Friendship is as fragile as wildflowers in the meadow....and as self-renewing.
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